Sunday 3 April 2016

                                            The Maid of Honor’s DRESS
                             The Other Life Skills with Amanda Ranganawa

The OTHER LIFE SKILLS deals with life issues that may or may not be basic knowledge to everyone. These life skills may range from social, economical to political issues. Today l am talking about weddings and the maid of honor.
First of all l love weddings, gosh everything is always beautiful. My favorite eye candy is the bride whom l check out everything from head to toe. My second favorite is the maid of honor and she is the one l want to talk about. I think that one should always realize that when planning a wedding everything is well thought, even the maid of honors dress. 

So as a bride you need to know that if you are dressing your friend, sister or hired help her dress reflects on you as well. As a maid of honor please don’t just accept anything. Your presence to the wedding is as valuable as the cake and it’s your duty to remind your friend of the importance of your appearance.

I recently attended a wedding and l must say l was shocked and impressed. The dresses were so amazing that l thought the bride had decided to dress like the maid of honor. That was until the bride walked out and l saw a very gorgeous bridal dress that made me want to get married too. However, what caught my fancy and curious eye was mostly the maid of honor's dress.

Her dress may l say, looked by far different from the ‘’curtain hung on trees ‘’dresses that l have seen in most weddings.  I was so used to seeing maid of honors wearing either plain, dull colored, loose, or just plain ugly dresses. Whilst their best friend or sister (in some cases), the bride, looked so beautiful it pretty much made the maid of honor look like a slave beside her.

However, at this wedding the maid of honor was dressed almost just as beautiful as the bride. I say almost because l believe there is an unbroken, unwritten or presumably written rule that the bride must always be the center of attention. Nonetheless, the maid of honor's dress made me realize a number of things that a dress can say about the bride. Yes you, the bride. The dress that you buy or hire for your best friend, sister, or hired maid of honor, church mate or neighbor speaks a lot of words. 
There are so many things that a maid of honor's dress can say about the bride. You just pick where you fit in. 
On the Positive side, it may say:
1.That lm not intimidated by you my friend and l do want you to look as beautiful as me on my wedding day
2.   2.   You know how you have always begged me to buy you an evening dress; well here it is, finally.
3.    3.  I don’t want you standing beside me looking like Jenifer Lopez’s mother-in law in the movie Step Monster. I mean really what will people say?
4.   4.   Girl, l have money, so lm going to make sure you look your best because l want you to
5.   5.   I don’t have much money, but this is the best l could afford
6.    6.   It may say look at how beautiful you look in that dress, and you know that drunkard of a boyfriend .you have doesn’t deserve you
7.      7. The boutique l hired to rent us wedding dresses, simply has beautiful maid of honour dresses as well
8.     8.  This dress is my way of helping save your marriage, and lm sure when your husband sees you in 9. this he is going to want you more
9.     9.  Well of course you are not fat, look how beautiful that dress fits you
1  10.  I don’t want people thinking my wedding was cheap when they see you wearing a cheap dress in our wedding photos
     On the negative side the maid of Honor’s dress may mean this:
      1. If you ever screw up my marriage, that dress will be your karma
2.      2. You never thought l would get married did you? Well, now l want you close enough to see me wed whilst you wear that
3.     3. You couldn’t make up your damn mind about which dress you wanted so l picked that for you
4.     4.  My overzealous Mother-in law or Aunt went and bought the brides maid dresses without checking with me first.
5.    5.   I have been so angry at you for so long and this dress is pay back

6.      6. It may say, look l hired you so l don’t need to make you look fancy and all, just do the job l'm paying you for
    These are just pointers to keep in mind. They may or may not apply to you as a bride however, its always good to remember that the dress you buy the woman beside you or the one she buys for herself signifies a message on your wedding day.